ADHD & Low Self Esteem

(Attention Deficit HyperActive Disorder)

Occasionally, we may all have difficulty sitting still, paying attention or controlling impulsive behaviour. For a person with ADHD, though, these problems become so pervasive and persistent that their ability to function effectively in daily life is compromised.

In general society’s reaction to the ADHD child’s behaviour is negative with very little tolerance or understanding. The continuous negative feedback the ADHD child gets from parents, teachers and peers result in a low self esteem. The child continuously faces disapproval and strong negative emotions in response to his / her behaviour which the child does not understand and cannot control.  The child does not comprehend why his/her behaviour causes so much negative reaction.

When the adults in the child’s life have an understanding of why the child behaves the way he/she does, small changes in language alone can make a huge difference. For example:

When saying: “You are a bad boy!” the child perceives it as he is a bad person.

Instead say: “Your behaviour is not appropriate and I do not approve”, and then affirm; “I love you I just do not agree with the way you are behaving now, it hurts my feelings when you speak to me in that manner.”

This kind of feedback makes it clear to the child that there is a difference between him as a person and his behaviour and that he is in control of how he behaves. It also affirms that he is loved and his behaviour will not cause his mom or dad to stop loving him.

This is very important since most children feel insecure, their biggest fear that their parents will not love them anymore and that they are not good enough for their parents.

This is the case with children in general as well – however in the case of the ADHD child it is exacerbated, they need to be reassured constantly and reminded that they are loved and that they are safe. Establishing clear rules and setting firm boundaries are the keys to achieving a feeling of safety and security.¤

UPCOMING WORKSHOP

Understanding your ADHD Child – Practical Solution-based Workshop for Parents

This workshop is for any parent who suspects their child may be ADHD/ADD or whose child has been diagnosed with ADHD/ADD.

If you are concerned about your child’s behaviour; finding it difficult to cope and not sure what to do, then this workshop is for you. We are not pro or anti medication – we simply give you the facts, look at the challenges and find the best solutions so you can create a healthy happy space for your family.

Leila Benelli has offered these workshops successfully in South Africa, Indonesia and India. These workshops will be held in Australia and New Zealand in October this year.

Dates for one day workshops: 8th & 31st March; 12th; 21st & 28th April

Time: 9h00 – 15h00 (registration at 8h30)

(Tea, Coffee & Biscuits provided – please provide your own lunch.)

Place: Novalis Institute, 91 Rosmead Avenue, Wynberg, Cape Town, South Africa

Bookings Contact: +27 (0)78 090 4829 or email myadhdchildren@gmail.com

Payments to: L. Smith; FNB Acc No. 62289384267; Branch 250655

(Use your surname as reference on payment)

Cost: R950 for two / R650 for one

PLUS you get a free download of the book “Help My Child is Driving Me Crazy” which was published and launched in 2010 both in South Africa and in India & the Double Audio CD Set- Interviews conducted with 5 Top ADHD Medical Experts. Limited space available!

Only 20 max! Book now to avoid disappointment! Payment secures booking!

With appropriate intervention and support, people with ADHD can function successfully in society.

PRODUCTS & SERVICES TO HELP PARENTS UNDERSTAND THEIR ADHD CHILD

• ADHD Talks / Workshops

It is imperative to inform parents and teachers about the challenges that ADHD children face in school to prepare them for a successful future. During our talks we give a good understanding of why certain behaviours are present; why children don’t seem to listen and what we can do about it.

• Help My Child Is Driving Me Crazy!

Soft cover book written as a parent’s practical handbook with various methods and techniques to help restore calm in the home, improve the child’s self-esteem and help in the area of school work and discipline.

• Double Audio CD set

On these two CD’s a panel of experts are interviewed on ADHD from five different medical perspectives. These audio CD’s will give the listener a good understanding of what an ADHD individual is dealing with as a child or an adult.

• DVD on ADHD

A panel of experts share their insights into the world of ADHD in front of a live studio audience with a Q&A session at the end. Listening to these experts will give a different view on what ADHD is and how to create coping skills to improve your life. (Available at the workshop at discount price of R180 – normal price R250)

• ADHD Coaching

We take on a multi-disciplinary approach with our coaching. We incorporate various aspects to help the individual deal with the various areas of life that are posing a challenge to them.

For any further information please contact us:

Email: myadhdchildren@gmail.com

Website: www.myadhdchildren.com

Cell: 078 090 4829 Leila

PLEASE CONTACT US IF YOU WOULD LIKE THIS KIND OF WORKSHOP TO COME

TO A CITY NEAR YOU!